Posts tagged “sex education

3 Easy Steps to Better Sex

Being Sexually Unfulfilled

Let’s start this off with a show of hands. How many of you have had sex without orgasming? Without being pleasured, fulfilled, or having cummed?

Yeah, I feel you.

Unfortunately, we’ve all been there but this is a 100% curable phenomena. Are you ready for the solution?

Here it is. All you have to do to fix it is Stop, Talk, and Listen.

I am the kind of person that will stop my partner, mid-sex, to tell them exactly what I like or don’t like. If I’m not feeling it at all and am not getting anything out of it, I will even up and leave you behind in the bedroom. That’s just the way I am. I’m a snob when it comes to sex, point blank. I demand your best because I will give you my best.  It’s as simple as that for me.

So here it is, the 3 easy steps to better sex.

1. Stop: Don’t be afraid to pause in the heat of the moment. Just because you’re in the middle of bumping uglies does not mean that it is too late to change things up.

2. Talk: Tell your partner(s) what you do or do not like. For example;

“Hey, I’m not really liking that position. Can we switch to this one instead?”


“Hey, you almost had me at my climax but then you changed stroke too quickly. Try to keep a constant rhythm.”

And finally, last but not least.

3. Listen: This is THE most vital step. You need to listen to your partner. You expect your partner to listen to your requests and suggestions so you need to respect your partner(s) as well and listen to theirs.

It is as simple as that. Oftentimes we get too caught up in the hype of sex and forget what sex is supposed to be all about. It’s supposed to be, light-hearted, sexy, crazy, wild, chaste, demur, conservative, liberal, brilliant, and awe-inspiring. It is supposed to be whatever rocks your socks off and then some so do not be afraid to stop the process in order to make it better, communicate with your partner(s), and most importantly listen to your partner(s).

Try this out and let me know how it goes for you.

Be Safe & Peace ; D

p.s. Oh and I’ve upgraded. Check out that video quality. HD quality right there baby! ; D


Let’s Talk About Anal Sex


Let me just start this post off by saying that I am not a fan of Anal Sex. I have tried it every which way and it still is not my cup of tea. However, I’m young and I have a very bright and hopeful sexual future so it might turn out that my preference will change. You never know.

With that said, I want each and everyone of you to try it out. I know you’re giving me the squeamish side, but really just try it. You know the saying “Don’t knock it ’till you try it.” That most definitely applies here because you really never know. It just may be that you fall in love with anal sex. It may turn out that you’re like me and it’s not your preference. Either way, when it comes to sex and your sexuality I am a firm believer in try anything once (within reason y’all 😉

Anyway, imma keep this post short and sweet so you can go check out my video on the subject. You get three different perspectives from three people with very different sexual backgrounds.

Hope you enjoy, and as always keep an open mind!

Peace ; D

Women Masturbate Too!

Women masturbate. On a Bed. In the Shower. In the Car. In our dreams. With Friends. We do masturbate.

Still with me? Okay. I just had to get that point across as flagrantly as possible. Are you squeamish yet? Good, because this post is about to become a whole lot more blunt.

I’m sick and tired of this stigma against female masturbation. Even more than that, it kills me that this subject is so taboo. Yes, little boys masturbating is considered a ‘taboo’ topic, but take a moment to consider all of the PSA’s that went into the creation of the stereotype of little boys disappearing off to the shower for a little ‘personal time.’

“Oh don’t mind Billy. Boys will be boys after all.”

In our society[the U.S.] there is a socialized norm towards boys masturbating, but that same norm does not get extended to their female counter parts. I used to wonder why that was but then I had to stop myself and give myself a reality check. Duh Kalhu, we live in a patriarchal society. Men can socially get away with more than women can. Now before I lose any of you, I am not some raging femme bitch who wants death to all men. No, I am just a girl living in a male-dominated world and having to suffer the consequences. We have progressed a lot in terms of women’s rights. Hell, I’m a 21-year old college student with no marital prospects, that right there is proof enough. But what we have achieved in overt success also has a dirty secret that lurks in the subtle beliefs and paradigms of our culture; indirect sexism. It’s still alive and kicking, and it is rearing it’s ugly head especially in the conversation on female masturbation.

Let’s talk about masturbation. Girls will be girls after all. We experience sexual pleasure as well. We do have sensory nerves down there. A lot of them actually and we do get the urge to engage those same nerves. And you know what? It feels damn good! We can experience happy alone time too.  I personally partake in Kalhu’s special happy time quite often, (this is code speak for I masturbate, everyday). I don’t say this to be vulgar but I want to break through the barriers of this stigma and start the conversation on women masturbating.

So if you’re interested in starting up the conversation with me, check out my video on this topic.

Let me know what y’all think. The good, the bad, and the ugly.

Peace ; D